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29 Dec: “Selfishness” Isn’t Always “Bad”

Sometimes, I think that “taking care of yourself” can be seen as “selfishness.” That, alone, is a shame. What’s interesting, though, is that I believe there are times when actually being “selfish” is necessary. For example, I came across a saying once that read, “I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.” Meaning, I can’t help you if I don’t help me. Helping others is one of the most important things you can do in this life, but if you’re not feeling whole, restored, and intact, you’ve got nothing to give. Being Selfless Doesn’t Mean Losing Yourself In terms of well being–physically, mentally, and emotionally–selfishness is not a “bad behavior.” We can be both selfless and “selfish.” It’s necessary (and priceless) for us to make time to allow ourselves to think, especially in the tech-driven world we live in. Notifications alerting us left and right, calendars reminding…