Any life, no matter how long and complex it may be, is made up of a single moment–the moment a person finds out, once and for all, who they are. This is a crucial time when genuine change can actually occur because being who you are is the first step towards becoming better than you are.
Inasmuch, be aware that an accurate definition of the self is impossible. This should not only take pressure off of you, but it also grants you exponential hope; you are more than you realize, more than you can define. So, the more time you spend trying to nail down that definition, the less time you spend living right now. Your past is not your identity. You, living now, is your identity.
Thereby, consult not your fears, but rather your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do!
Listen with Discretion
Most importantly, do not listen to anyone who says to you, “It’s not done that way.” Maybe it’s not done that way, but maybe you will do it that way. Don’t listen to those who say, “You’re taking too big a chance.” Ha! If that were the case, Michelangelo would have painted the Sistine FLOOR, and it would surely be rubbed out by today.
Just as essential, do not listen when the little voice of fear inside you appears and says, “They’re all smarter than you, more talented, taller, blonder, prettier, luckier, and have connections…” I firmly believe that, if you follow a path that interests you–not to the exclusion of love, sensitivity, and cooperation with others, but with the strength of conviction that you can move others by your own efforts–and do not make success or failure the criteria by which you live, chances are that you’ll be a person worthy of your own respect.
To Thine Ownself
As for me, I have a basic philosophy that I’ve tried to follow my entire adult life and certainly throughout my coaching career. That is, whether you’re winning or losing, it’s important to always be yourself. “To thine ownself be true, first!”
Throughout the years, I have devoted enormous amounts of time working on myself (I still do and always will) and can affirmatively say: you’ve got but only one life to live this go-around. Make it count. Be more and more yourself each day. Thus, you become better and better.
Here’s to living your best life–starting right now!